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लड़कियों को पढ़ाओगे तो वो बहुत कुछ कर सकती हैं।

Redefining the Balance – Challenging Gender Stereotypes


As a young girl pursuing graduation along with CS, I recognized an eagerness within me to contribute towards people’s welfare and help society. This led to my aspiration of being a civil servant. Belonging to a society having a deep-rooted patriarchal mindset; my father had constant pressure from relatives who ridiculed him by saying things like “yeh toh ladki hai isko itna padhake kya karoge”.


Sonal Goel IAS, June 2021

I grew up in an atmosphere of conservatism, orthodoxy and the reality expected for me was grim. But I am grateful to have been born to parents who were progressive & enabled me to decide the calling of my own to become an IAS officer.

From 2004-2007, I pursued my job in CS, along with LLB and preparations for Civil services.

By God’s grace, support of my family and my focused hard work, I cleared the Civil services exam & became an IAS Officer in 2008 with an AIR 13.


However, challenges don’t stop merely at becoming an officer. Stepping into the field for public service delivery is quite gruelling at times, especially in an ecosystem wherein more than 70 per cent of the workforce working is men. It’s a constant struggle for women officers to keep proving ourselves and our capabilities time and again.

There is dynamic paraphernalia that affects your working and public service delivery. You can neither decide your boss nor your subordinates while you work in government.


As SDM Ambassa, Dhalai District in 2010

There may also be instances where we come across anxiety and stress while facing a substantial number of vulnerabilities. Transfer, unquestionably, is a major issue and adjustment in the family becomes difficult when your spouse is also working.

Women officers, especially, continue to face constraints to strike a balance between professional and personal life. In this field, I learnt to be an honest judge of myself, have a strong sense of integrity, compassion for people less privileged and connect to society along with team building through leadership.


Here I don’t blame anyone, but we all need to understand that this strong biased mindset in our society is a reflection of our own progression. Many things ofcourse have been changing for good, with more women in bureaucracy at top echelons. Women officers across the country have been making their strides in all fields. A lot more, however, needs to be done for sure!


In my 13 years of public service, I realized that the right intentions are supported sooner or later. Your conviction and determination matters to be the most important.


From a girl who had always stayed in the conservative protected environment of home to a woman serving the people in different parts of the country, this is the rediscovering reality for myself, This is ME!


I hope this journey continues to go a long way. Like me, I wish for many other young girls to voice out their opinion and follow their dreams. Face the ordeals in life with your own resilience. And people who try to discriminate or pin down a girl’s aspirations, please note that the times are changing.

Let us all support the girls around us to empower them.

Do not forget - Even Sky is not the Limit!


Sonal Goel IAS

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Dec 07, 2023

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Shivam ensure IAS
Shivam ensure IAS
Dec 05, 2023

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piyushvora12
Jun 11, 2023

Mam really apricot Nice work.

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Khushi Verma
Khushi Verma
Jun 23, 2021

Whatever you said it is precise. Mam now time is changing but not the mindset sometimes people had to suffer from the emotional tortures to convey them for the marriage end etc.. what we have to do in such a critical situation. When surroundings is making a pressure on a girl child to have child and some more. If you are raising your voice many times his/her voice was suppressed. Since we are in 2021 but still many things are left now also how to recover from these things mam..

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Khushi Verma
Khushi Verma
Jun 23, 2021
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Even many times people himself or herself feel discouraged

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NITIN KHANDELWAL
NITIN KHANDELWAL
Jun 22, 2021

Mam .... really superb... 👏👏 I really appreciate your blog.... After reading ur blog, I remembered my old days. At the time of the birth of my second daughter, nobody congratulated me. They(frnds, relatives and all) made me realize that it's not a moment of happiness. The situation was completely different. It's the reality of our society. But thank to the God that he showed me the real face of the society. It's a bitter truth. That day I decided, I will make my daughters successful in the field whatever they choose, so that they can set up an example in the society.

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